I have a 3yo boy who is potty training resistant. I tried to begin training 1.5 years.?
At that time, he showed signs of readiness. He then simply began refusing
to go to the potty & then began to tell me, while laughing, that he just
peed or pooped in his pants. He REFUSES to sit on the potty at all. l have
tried to even offer going outside or in the shower. l have taken diapers
away completely & he had an absolute meltdown. l have bought a seat to fit
on the toilet, a step stool, & a potty chair. He refuses each way. He peed
his pants yesterday & kicked and screamed for me to change him & put a diaper back on. l explained no more diapers. We are using underwear with vinyl pants over them. He has not pooped in 2 days now & l am getting worried. He is NOT afraid of the potty; he is just extremely strong willed. l did manage to get him to pee in the shower this morning but he refused the rest of the day, peeing in the floor tonight. Any suggestions?
No..you don't beat his behind like some idiot suggested
earlier. Jeez it is a wonder they knew how to type & spell so well being a
polydactyly. Just don't press the issue. If ur son sees that this is giving
him leverage in a world where he generally has no control, he will continue
to resist being trained. Drop it for a few weeks. Come back to it at
another time. Maybe he will initiate it.
In the meantime get that kind of diaper that he can feel get wet. I guess those are supposed to be uncomfortable.
I had almost the exact same problem with my daughter. I don't
know what happened, but one day, she suddenly decided she was ready to be
a big girl and use the potty. I know that that answer isn't really very
helpful, but maybe all you can do is relax a little bit, not emphasize it
quite so much, and see what happens. It worked for me.
1.5 years? Wow. Pushing potty training at a young age on a
child is a major no no. And can cause major problems for ur child. That
could be the reason he is not wanting to do it now. Obviously you stopped
& decided to try again now because he wasn't ready then. Potty training is
all about consistancy. You've got to take him to the potty every hr or so.
Remind him. Most of all you got to be patient. Read stories about the
potty, let him help you create a potty chart, hang it on the wall & reward him with stickers. Even if he only sits on it clothed or unclothed show praise for showing interest. He will do it when hes ready. It will probably be a shock. He will just up & decide todays the day. Try cherrios for aiming. Turn pottying into a game. It is normal for a child to not want to do #2 in the potty at 1st. You gotta work at the indvidually. Some kids just dont do both right away. I'd continue with pull ups & tell ur child when you visit the store that when he starts pottying he will be able to wear big boy underwear with his favorite characters on them. And show him the underwear. That way hes working towards something. Be paitent. Be constant. & most of all use lots of praise :)
This may sound strange.. but try rewarding him with a small
amount of candy. Not exactly the healthiest thing, but I swear by it.
Simple show him that after he goes pee or poop in the potty like a big
boy, that he gets to pick out a piece of candy..
Also, try letting him decide when he wants to go. If he is as strong
willed as you say, he may just want to do things on his own terms..
little boys love to pee outside and you have a big backyard
dont you
I know a lot of people that train at 2 years, but they never
seem to be finished until the child turns 3 years old.
With me I try when they start saying ''I go pee pee'' or show some
realization and if they stray from the training I try again when they show
interest again. The best thing I have done is drop it a while.
Watch out, though it is probably negative, you are giving your child a lot
of attention for not going on the potty (just a thought).
Our little man was 3 1/2 and making no progress, I was so
frustrated! I was using the same methods you described, then I found the
book ''Toilet training in less than a day''. So I backed off for a couple
weeks, let him wear diapers, didn't push, or even mention it, then tried
the method. I couldnt believe how fast he learned. It is been almost 6
months and he is had ONE accident.
http://www2.jsonline.com/lifestyle/parenting/jan03/potty010903.asp
Relax, unfortunately, it is completely up to him, & he knows
it!
My first son was 3 1/2, & my mother-in-law basically made me force him
into it (it worked without traumatizing him, thankfully!). My 2nd son
just gave up his pull-ups this summer, & he turned 4 in early September.
He showed a readiness & willingness at age 1, but we never got completely
there, & then it became a control issue. If you relax about it, & just give him the option of using the toilet or potty, it becomes less about him giving up the control & more about him being a ''big boy''. I would go back to pull-ups, they're less messy than changing all of his clothing each time he goes in his pants. I know it gets frustrating changing messes when you know they're capable, but keep the mood light, & just talk to him while changing him ''I bet you will be really glad when you're a big boy & can use the potty, instead of having Mommy change you like a baby. just make it all about him & his CHOICE. It also seemed to help when my youngest was around a boy just a year & a half older than him, he was close to the same age, but a ''big boy''. Dad & older brother were just too much older to be an influence.
Some times toddlers don't allow themselves to be potty trained
until they're older. 3yo isn't that old. Calm down and show him you love
him and trust him and he will let you know when he is ready. Try to NOT
make it a power struggle.
You are giving him too many choices. Pick one way for him to
go to the potty. We used the padded seat that fits onto the regular seat
easy.no mess. Take away the vinyl pants. Calmly & clearly tell him: You
are a big boy. Big boys use the potty to peepee & poo (what ever words you
use). You will use the potty from now on.
I did this with my second one, she was just too busy to be bothered to go to the bathroom. I took her to the mall, the day after we had that discussion. I think we went in & out of EVERY bathroom in the mall because she said she had to go she didn't go.then she had an ''accident''. She had to walk through a whole store with wet jeans to get to another bathroom.that was the last accident. Remember KISS KEEP IT SIMPLE SWEETHEAT!
i have to chuckle a lil bit. sounds like a hand full of a
little boy! my suggestion is to stick with what you are doing. you
absolutely can not give in.
have you tried pullups? maybe he will think they are fun since they go up
and down, like underwear, but still are similar to diapers.
have you tried rewarding him if he goes in the potty, outside or in the
shower? a little bribe never hurt a three year old! good luck.
this work for mine: put the blue toilet cleaner in the toilet
and show him if he pees in the water it will turn green. Hopefully he will
like to turn the blue water green.
Do not push potty training on him. Make him feel comfortable
with the bathroom maybe by putting a new book in there to read while he
sits on the toilet. I often had to leave my kids alone for privacy. And as
for not pooping, my 2 out of 4 kids were the same way. If you get too
worried and it has gone on too long then talk to his doctor and mention
Miralax. It is a powder that you mix in any drink and it helps.Beware that
it may help very well.
Place a ping-pong ball floating in the toilet & ask your boy to
target practice hitting the ball while urinating. Make it fun for him.
Maybe he is too old for potty.
Drop it for a while. This is not about potty training - it is
about control and he obviously has it. If you don't make an issue of it,
forget about it for a while, you might have better luck when you try to
resume. boys are usually slower at this than girls. Learn to pick your
battles - he is only 3 - and he has HOW many more years in the home?
You need to beat his behind. Explain to him once again the
situation. And if he resists on the w/e or sometime if you have a few
hours let him walk around in it or even clean his own underware. It will
stop. Get some potty stars for peeing in the toilet at walmart. You throw
them in the stool and tell him to make it sink. Once the unrine hits it it
dissolves. Try lil fun stuff after that if nothing works go back to my
original suggeston to beat his behind.
When my cousin was little, my aunt made it more like a game,
and not some kind of inconvenient chore. She would put Cheerios into the
potty and have him try to 'sink' them by actually going in the toilet.
However many Cheerios he sunk, he would get that many M&M is from a jar
she placed on a shelf over the potty as incentive. Try to treat it more
like a game, then he will not be opposing you, but playing. Good luck!
I understand there are now children is books and also videos on
this that make training a game for kids. Have you tried peeing on the
cheerios in the potty? Lots of people do that. Put a star on the calender
each day he does correctly, and when he gets 10 stars have a small reward.
I'd look for the books and videos.
Talk to ur pediatrician. It is not normal for a three year old
one to resist that much. You need to give him a children is enema from
Fleet, he will by now be so constipated that it will hurt like hell & he
won't go at all. You need to be firm with him, he cannot rule the house.
Buy the potty training video & let him watch it. Tell him he is a big boy
now & not a baby anymore. But if he wants to behave like a baby, you will
treat him like a baby. He might still need a pull up at night, but that is about all he should need. Peeing on the floor, outside or in the shower is not an option. Make him feel important, reward him if he goes & don't let a temper tantrum get in the way. It is not easy to be a parent but the problem is that he thinks with all his tantrums he can get away with it & you let him. Be firm, its better for you, easier on ur nerves & in the end it is better for him too. He needs to know his boundaries & you need to enforce them. Good Luck.
Relax, and stop trying to grow him up before he is ready. Just
because you think he is ready doesn't mean he is.
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